I am currently in a growth season in all aspects of my life. I am stretching and learning and reaching outside limited thinking and current beliefs of what I think I am capable of and what I perceive as possible. Some of it is self inflicted as I am always trying to grow and some is just life. It has been a real struggle the last few months but I am working through it and sometimes I have to take a step back to self reflect, reevaluate, and decide how to proceed. I want to share a few things that I have learned...
1) You cannot do everything on your own.
As much as you want to believe that you should be able to take on the world....it is just not possible for one person to do everything. It takes a partner, a team, sometimes a tribe. I have learned that I am good at certain things and certain tasks should be outsourced to truly be effective.
2) Growth is hard.
If you are like me, I am constantly searching for ways to grow personally and professionally. I want to be the best that I can be so I try to read as much as possible and I practice my crafts. With that being said, it is not easy to grow and it is really not easy to step out of my comfort zone. When you step into the unknown there is a greater chance of failing because you are venturing into uncharted territory. The last few months have been hard but I have also been pleasantly surprised and I got better! I guess the lesson here is to embrace the pain and lean in because as much as it sucks while you are wading though it there is a light at the end of the tunnel and you will be better off because of the journey.
3) Don't let fear drive.
Fear is tricky and sly. Recently I worked on a project that made me want to cry, scream, pull my hair out, and quit. (I can't lie there was definitely some crying involved but nevertheless I had to push through it.) I found myself wanting to push back against the situation and people involved. As I reflected on why I was resisting everything, I realized the urge to push back was fear creeping in because I was doubting my ability and I was afraid that everyone would be able to see that I did not have the answers. In the end it worked out and I was able to find a resolution. The truth is a lot of people do not have the answers but if you let fear derail you, you will never realize your true potential. It is so easy to let fear take over and paralyze us but to be the best that we can be we must fight back and put fear in the back seat.
Fear is not all bad, it can help guide us from getting into bad situations. The trick is to assess each situation and determine if the fear is instinct and intuition or simply insecurity.
I hope this helps. Have faith and drive on but don't let fear drive you off the road.